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Running head: TECHNOLOGY AND DATING 0

TECHNOLOGY AND DATING

Camilla Zheng

FEMST 150

July 29, 2020

Technology has resulted in fast and convenient communication, and this has affected how relationships work or how they are formed. Technology has given individuals a platform to connect with people from different parts of the world. Initially, people would marry their neighbours or wait for long to get a partner in workplaces or schools. Marriage was a formal thing between parents and the community. Technology has changed these, and from the 20th-century young people have started dating. Dating is a time of having a romantic affair where two individuals meet as friends in order to gauge each other's suitability as a potential spouse in an intimate connection. Young people who are dating have to meet time and again to strengthen their relationship and get into intimacy in the future. Technology has transformed dating; there are applications where individuals meet but not physically. However, there are many challenges associated with technology dating. This paper will discuss how technology has affected young people's dating by destroying relationship foundations, immorality in youths, family breakups, and homicide

Before focusing on the effects of technology on dating, evaluating, or discussing how some of the social media platforms, as well as dating sites, work. Tinder is one of the dating apps where individuals have to download the application in their play store or app store. Once the app is downloaded, the user will create an account with an enticing profile picture and attractive information or bio. The key issue in Tinder is having an enticing look in the profile that will make suitors like it. In this case, to date, someone in the app depends on how they look and not their personality(Hobbs, Owen, & Gerber, 2017). Individuals fall in love with pictures that sometimes are filtered to look beautiful and not the real image. There have been testimonies of people who met in such sites, and they become friends, and later, their friendship leads to dating and even marriage. Tinder can be though to be beneficial to individuals who are busy and will afford to get partners without devoting much time and effort. However, a big percentage of individuals are heartbroken for falling in love with a fake identity. Social media have been a place of people living their dreams and not who they are (Danielle Couch & Pranee Liamputtong 2008). Desperate youths seeking love may get in a relationship with a person who was using the app for fun.

A big percentage of youths, especially in metropolitan areas, own mobile phones or other devices like computers that allow them to communicate and get information faster (Hobbs, Owen, &Gerber, 2017). Additionally, most youths spend much of their time on social media, chatting with friends, playing games, and exploring what is treading all over the world. This has limited youths from socializing with their mates, and in turn, there are no strong friendship ties. Phones have become youths' closest friends, some may argue that they get to know their friends and talk with them online, but there is a very big difference between talking with someone physically and through communication devices. Talking with a person face to face help individuals to learn from facial expressions and commitment that a person has to spend time with you. Technology, therefore, has destroyed foundations of relationships where initially spouses had to be there for each other. They had to create time for each other, which helped them evaluate the sustainability of their relationship. Affection is a sensual attraction from personal appearance, touch, and frequent observations; the reality of dating using the media is still questionable (Berlant, 1998). Sending pictures and having video calls is not enough for a sustainable relationship.

Second, technology has made youths immoral (Bernstein 2007). Being exposed to pornographic materials has led dating life to be misery, and relationships can, therefore, not stand strong. Pornographic materials all over media platforms; youths have to search for any information, and they will get even more than what they were curious to know. In the dating stage, therefore, youths cannot maintain their partners because they expect to get a spouse identical to what they see in the media, or they want someone who can do all the things they see on these platforms. Therefore, technology can be said to have ruined relationships because youths have become too demanding of unachievable things. Cyberbullying is rampant in the media where youths meet online, and they send immoral pictures to each other in the name of love, but when they break up, they expose the private information of their spouses.

The use of technology has affected not only those looking for spouses but also those who have already settled and are already in marriage. Being in social media is not illegal and married, and singles are in social media together. Beautiful profile pictures on social media platforms like Facebook, Instagram is a source of attraction to suitors looking for partners to date, be friends, or even long time partners in marriage—having those friends who can be a source of family breakups. It is normal for couples to feel jealous when their partners get approached in social media. Dating sites are not limited to individuals look for hook-ups even when they are married, and out of lust, young people find themselves entangled in relationships that cannot last for long, and they lose what they already have.

Technology has changed the individual perception of love. To please people needs a good profile picture and in this case, people have to lie about who they are able to achieve what they want(Rachel Dinh, et al 2015). People have been deceitful for various motives online, logically security, and they become something that can be questioned. For instance, people cannot trust strangers they meet in streets, but they can trust those they meet on social media or digital platforms, and they allow them to acquire sensitive information. Through online dating rampant, handlers are allowing strangers to acquire their information on their lives. Every individual needs safety and secure lives online dating is therefore not secure and has resulted in a homicide. People join dating apps with different motives; some need money people while others need love. People have been killed after they allow strangers to acquire secret information, and when this information is out, it can be used for their spouse benefit, and the only solution is to kill the target.

Youths are surrounded by many issues that come along with their development. Self-esteem is one of the issues that affect youths, and technology has contributed to youths having low self-esteem. Having a phone is like an obvious thing among youths, and joining these dating apps is what some youths cherish to have fun and satisfy their sexual desires.Thisform of application, therefore violates the purpose of technology in dating. Youths post in dating apps since their mates are doing it. This usually ends in tears where people hurt each other. The majority of people, especially youths who post in social media or online dating applications, have no intention of getting a date, a long time spouse, or a hook-up, but it is for fun. These forms of applications make dating apps look questionable for their credibility.

Dating has changed its meaning over time, but it can lead a couple to marriage or romance for fun. Youths are fond of using technology for the best part of their time, and they should take care before exposing their privacy in social media. Effective use of technology can lead to a bright future with an individual's "better half," or can lead to abuse physically and psychologically. Cyberbullying is rampant individuals have to be careful of what they expose in the media and who they interact with.

Technology has resulted in online dating, which permits people to have chances to get their online connections and organize future dates before sexual relations. Online dating might give individuals health protection because they can plan before they meet and cases of sexually transmitted diseases upon proper planning. Technology has improved individual needs and capabilities to get an appropriate life spouse or a date. Certainly, dating apps offer a connection for intimacy. They act as intermediaries, especially for young people who are busy and are willing to explore. Technology and dating improve a person's ability to get spouse with people they can shape a jointly pleasing association and remain the tendency to a better connection. Therefore, networked affection or relationship is about playing, dating, and searching for affection and accomplishment through dating apps. Dating sites brings individual independence, chances and desires. However, there are many individuals who have been hurt by finding love in these sites.

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Elizabeth Bernstein (2007). Buying and selling "the Girl friend experience"

Lauren Berlant (1998). Intimacy: a special issue. University of Chicago

Mitchell Hobbs, Stephen Owen, and Livia Gerber (2017). Liquid love? Dating apps, sex, relationships and the digital transformation of intimacy. Journal of sociology. Sage

Rachel Dinh, Patrick Gildersleve, Chris Blex, and Taha Yasseri. (2015). Computational Courtship: Understanding the Evolution of Online Dating through Large-scale Data Analysis. Oxford Internet Institute, University of Oxford, Oxford, UK