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" It ’s u nhealt hy to f o rc e p eo p le in to a ch oic e t h at m ight n o t f it t h em ."

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A p hilo so p her m ake s th e c ase f o r p oly a m ory

There i s s till a t a b oo a ro und o p en r e la tio nsh ip s i n o ur c u lt u re . P eo p le w ho o p enly p ra c tic e

n o nm ono ga m y, i f n o t q uit e o stra c iz e d , a re c e rt a in ly s te re o ty p ed .

This i s p art o f t h e r e aso n C arrie J e nkin s, a p hilo so p hy p ro fe sso r a t t h e U niv e rs it y o f B rit is h

C olu m bia , h as b eco m e a r e lu cta n t d efe nd er o f p oly a m ory . J e nkin s, w ho se n ew b ook i s

c alle d W hat L ove I s : An d W hat It C ould B e , s a ys o ur c o nce p t o f r o m an tic l o ve i s t o o

narro w , t o o e xc lu siv e , t o o “ m ono no rm ativ e .”Shutte rs to ck 7/13/2021 A philosopher makes the case for polyamory - Vox

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“ T he f a c t t h at t h e s o cia l c o nstru ct e xc lu d es m e i s n o t a r e aso n t o f e el l ik e I 'm d oin g

so m eth in g w ro ng,” s h e t o ld m e. “ It 's a r e aso n t o c h alle nge t h e s o cia l c o nstru ct.”

T he s im ple st d efin it io n o f p oly a m ory i s p art ic ip atio n i n m ult ip le l o vin g r e la tio nsh ip s a t t h e

sa m e t im e. F o r t h e p ast f o ur y e ars , J e nkin s h as h ad b oth a l o vin g husb an d a n d a l o vin g

b oyfr ie nd , a n d e ve ry o ne k n o w s a b out e ve ry o ne e ls e . T here a re n o s e cre ts , n o d ece p tio ns,

n o j e alo usie s. B ut, s o cia l s tig m as b ein g w hat t h ey a re , J e nkin s s p ent s e ve ra l y e ars h id in g

th is p art o f h er l if e . E ve n i n t h e l ib era l e ncla ve o f a c ad em ia , m ono no rm ativ it y p ers is ts . S o

sh e d ecid ed t o w rit e t h is b ook a n d , a s s h e p ut i t , “ s ta rt a c o nve rs a tio n.”

I n t h is i n te rv ie w , I t a lk t o J e nkin s a b out w hat s h e h o p es t o a c co m plis h w it h t h is b ook. I a sk

h er w hat a p ro p erly e xp an siv e c o nce p t o f l o ve l o oks l ik e , w hy i t ’s a m is ta ke t o r e d uce

fo rm s o f l o ve t o s e x, a n d w hat o ur c u lt u re g e ts r igh t — a n d w ro ng — a b out m ono ga m y.

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W hat d is tin gu is h es p oly a m ory f r o m o th er f o rm s o f n o nm ono ga m y?

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T his i s o ne o f t h o se d if fic u lt d efin it io nal q uestio ns. I c an o nly t e ll y o u w hat i t m ean s t o m e. I

t h in k o f i t i n t e rm s o f i t s e ty m olo gy , w hic h m ean s m ult ip le l o ve s. I u se i t f o r m ys e lf b ecau se

I'm i n m ore t h an o ne l o vin g re la tio nsh ip . S o n o nm ono ga m y m ore g e nera lly c o uld i n clu d e

p eo p le w ho a re i n o ne l o vin g re la tio nsh ip b ut t h ey a ls o h ave o th er s e xu al p art n ers o uts id e

of t h at r e la tio nsh ip — p eo p le w ho a re s w in ge rs , f o r e xa m ple .

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H ow l o ng have y o u p ra c tic e d p oly a m ory ?

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I'v e b een o p enly n o nm ono ga m ous f o r f iv e o r s ix y e ars . O ve r t h e l a st f o ur y e ars , I ’ v e b een

in vo lv e d i n s e ve ra l l o ng-te rm s im ult a n eo us r e la tio nsh ip s, a n d s o t h e t e rm p oly a m ory h as

fe lt m ore a p pro p ria te .

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D o y o u o b je ct t o m ono ga m y o n m ora l o r p hilo so p hic al g ro und s? O r d o y o u j u st p re fe r

p oly a m ory ?

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I d on't o b je ct t o m ono ga m y a t a ll. I j u st d on't c h o ose i t f o r m ys e lf . I t h in k m ono ga m y i s t h e

b est f it f o r a l o t o f p eo p le . I 'm j u st n o t o ne o f t h o se p eo p le .

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S o y o u'r e n o t a n ti- m ono ga m y; y o u'r e j u st p ro -p oly a m ory .

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Y e s, e xa c tly . I 'm n o t a n ti- a n yth in g. I 'm a rg u in g th at e ve ry b od y s h o uld b e a b le t o d o

w hate ve r t h ey w an t. T he p ro b le m i s I d on’t f e el l ik e I ’ m a llo w ed t h is f r e ed om , a t l e ast n o t i n

a s o cia lly a c ce p ta b le w ay.

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I t a ke i t t h at’s w hy y o u w ro te t h is b ook, b ecau se y o u f e lt l ik e y o u h ad t o c o nce al t h is p art o f

yo ur l if e ?

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A ctu ally , t h e b ook h as a f a ir ly l a te -s ta ge o p enness. W e w ere a lr e ad y f a ir ly o p en b efo re t h e

b ook, b ut w e f e lt t h e n eed t o t a lk a b out t h is , p art ly b ecau se w e f e lt l ik e w e w ould b e

ju d ge d i f w e w ere s e en w it h a n o th er p art n er t h at w asn ’t o ur w if e o r h usb an d . W e t h o ugh t

p eo p le m igh t a ss u m e w e'r e c h eatin g, a n d w e a ls o t h o ugh t t h at e ve n i f p eo p le k n ew w e

w ere n't c h eatin g, t h ey m igh t h ave a l o t o f s te re o ty p es i n t h eir m in d a b out w hat i t m ean s t o

b e i n a n o p en r e la tio nsh ip , a n d s o w e w an te d t o a d dre ss s o m e o f t h e o b je ctio ns w e'v e

h eard .

W e a ls o w an te d t o m od el s o m eth in g dif fe re nt, s o m eth in g th at l o oke d l e ss l ik e s o m e o f t h e

ste re o ty p es, a n d s o m eth in g th at, a s f a r a s w e c o uld t e ll, w as a h ealt h y a lt e rn ativ e .

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A c o m mon a ss u m ptio n a b out r o m an tic l o ve t h at i t c an o nly e xis t b etw een t w o p art n ers a t

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I a m r e ally i n te re ste d a n d p hilo so p hic ally i n ve ste d i n t h at c la im f o r o bvio us r e aso ns. I h ave

a t h eo ry a b out w hat r o m an tic l o ve i s : I t 's p art b io lo gi cal, s o t h e b ra in c h em is try a n d

eve ry th in g th at's e vo lv e d i n u s a s a s p ecie s, a n d p art s o cia lly c o nstru cte d . R om an tic l o ve

a s a s o cia l c o nstru ct, i n t h is t im e a n d p la c e , s till i n clu d es a s tro ng m ono ga m y c o m ponent.

S o i f y o u'r e t h in kin g ab out t h e s o cia l s id e o f r o m an tic l o ve , w hat i t i s r ig h t n o w , t h en t h ere

is a s e nse i n w hic h w hat I d o, f o r e xa m ple , i s j u st a b ad f it f o r t h at s o cia l c o nstru ct. T he

p eo p le w ho s a y I 'm n o t r e ally i n l o ve b ecau se I h ave t h at r e la tio nsh ip w it h t w o p eo p le a re

h alf w ay r igh t, i n t h e s e nse t h at t h ey a re a c c u ra te ly s a yin g th e s o cia l c o nstru ct e xc lu d es

m e.

B io lo gi cally s p eak in g, w hate ve r i s g o in g on i n m y b ra in i s t h e t h in g th at r o m an tic l o ve i s

s u p pose d t o l o ok l ik e , o r w hat i t l o oks i n o th er p eo p le w ho a re i n m ono ga m ous l o ve . T he

fa c t t h at t h e s o cia l c o nstru ct e xc lu d es m e i s n o t a r e aso n — a n d t h is h as b een m y m ost

h ard -w on p ie ce o f w is d om — t o f e el l ik e I 'm d oin g so m eth in g w ro ng. I t 's a r e aso n t o

c h alle nge t h e s o cia l c o nstru ct.

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S o y o u’r e l o okin g to p re se rv e t h is d ic h o to m y o f l o ve a s b oth a s o cia l c o nstru ct a n d a

b io lo gi cal i m puls e ?

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R om an tic l o ve h as i t s b io lo gi cal s id e, a n d i t h as i t s s o cia lly c o nstru cte d s id e. W hat I 'm r e ally

in te re ste d i n i s h o w c an w e i m pro ve i t a n d i n clu d e b oth h alv e s i n t h e p ic tu re . B ut f o r t h e

so cia lly c o nstru cte d s id e, w e h ave a l o t o f c o ntro l o ve r t h at, n o t a n y o ne i n d iv id ual b ut

co lle ctiv e ly . B ecau se a s o cia l c o nstru ct m ean s w e c o lle ctiv e ly a re c o nstru ctin g a n d

m ain ta in in g [it ] , a n d i t d oes c h an ge o ve r t im e. Y o u c an s e e t h is , f o r e xa m ple , i n t h e m ove

to w ard g re ate r i n clu sio n o f s a m e-s e x l o ve i n m y l if e tim e. A nd i n t h e g e nera tio n b efo re t h at,

a s im ila r m ove t o w ard t h e i n clu sio n o f i n te rra c ia l l o ve .

S o t h is s o cia l c o nstru ct t h at u se d t o e xc lu d e c e rt a in k in d s o f r e la tio nsh ip s h as c o m e t o

in clu d e t h em , s o i t 's p oss ib le f o r u s t o c h an ge w hat i s o r i s n 't i n clu d ed u nd er t h at h ead in g.

K no w in g th at w e h ave a s o cia lly c o nstru cte d p heno m eno n o n o ur h an d s i s w hat e m pow ers

u s t o c h alle nge a n d c h an ge i t .

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I f w e’r e t a lk in g ab out a s o cia l c o nstru ct, i t m ake s n o s e nse t o t a lk a b out w hat’s “ n atu ra l,”

b ut t h ere ’s c e rt a in ly a s c h o ol o f t h o ugh t t h at s a ys m ono ga m y i s p syc h o lo gic ally u nhealt h y

b ecau se i t f o rc e s u s t o r e p re ss b io lo gi cal d riv e s.

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It ’s u nhealt h y t o f o rc e p eo p le i n to a c h o ic e t h at m igh t n o t f it t h em . Y o u c an t h in k o f t h e

m od el o f c o m puls o ry h ete ro se xu alit y , i n w hic h t h e o nly k in d o f s e x t h at's p erm is s ib le o r

th e o nly s e x o ne c an c o nte m pla te i s s tra igh t s e x. W hat's u nhealt h y t h ere i s s o m e p eo p le

a re g o in g to b e f o rc e d t o w ard s o m eth in g th at d oesn 't s u it t h em , d oesn 't f it t h em , a n d

fo rc e d a w ay f r o m w hat w ould a c tu ally b e t h e n atu ra l, h ealt h y l if e f o r t h em . I t 's n o t t h at

stra igh t s e x i s n 't h ealt h y. I t 's t h at f o rc in g eve ry o ne i n to o ne b ox i s u nhealt h y.

I t h in k t h e s a m e a b out m ono ga m y.

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W hat’s y o ur r e sp onse t o p eo p le w ho s a y p oly a m ory i s r e ally a b out s e x, n o t l o ve ?

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I c an o nly d esc rib e m y e xp erie nce a n d t h e e xp erie nce s o f o th er p eo p le I k n o w . I a m i n l o ng-

te rm , l o vin g re la tio nsh ip s w it h t w o p eo p le , a n d t h ere 's s o m uch t o t h ese r e la tio nsh ip s t h at

I c an h ard ly b egi n t o d esc rib e t h e k in d s o f v a lu e t h ey b rin g to m y l if e .

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C an y o u gi ve m e a n e xa m ple o f w hat y o u m ean h ere ?

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S ure . W hen I w as w rit in g m y b ook i n i t s e arly s o rt o f m an usc rip t s ta ge s, I w as h esit a n t t o

s h o w i t t o a n yo ne I d id n’t h ave r e ally d eep t ru st w it h . I s h o w ed m y h usb an d , w ho's a ls o a

p hilo so p her, a n d I s a id , h ey, a m I m ak in g an y b ad p hilo so p hic al e rro rs ? H elp m e o ut h ere ,

ch eck i t a ll t h ro ugh f o r m e. B ecau se w e h ave t h e k in d o f r e la tio nsh ip w e d o, I d id n't f e el

u nco m fo rt a b le s h arin g w it h h im a t a ll.

M y b oyfr ie nd i s a w rit e r a n d p oet, a n d h e's t a u gh t c re ativ e w rit in g fo r m an y y e ars . I w as

a b le t o s h are t h e m an usc rip t w it h h im a n d s a y, h ey, i s m y w rit in g re ally b ad , c an y o u h elp

m e w it h t h e w rit in g? I n t h e s a m e w ay, i t d id n't f e el b ad t o s h are w it h h im , b ecau se e ve n

th o ugh I k n ew i t w as f u ll o f m is ta ke s a n d p ro b ab ly f u ll o f b ad w rit in g, I l o ve h im a n d t ru st

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S o I h ave t h at k in d o f r e la tio nsh ip w it h b oth o f t h ese p eo p le , a n d i t p la ys s u ch a h uge r o le i n

m y l if e t h at t o s a y t h at i s j u st a b out s e x w ould b e t o m is s t h e p oin t e ntir e ly .

Auth o r C arrie J e nkin s.

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W hy d o y o u t h in k p eo p le a re d esp era te t o r e d uce p oly a m ory — o r r e ally a n y f o rm o f l o ve —

t o s e x?

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I h ave t h o ugh t a b out w hy p eo p le d o t h at. I f y o u c an r e d uce p oly r e la tio nsh ip s — o r s a m e-

se x r e la tio nsh ip s, f o r t h at m atte r — t o s e x, i t b eco m es e asie r t o d is m is s t h em a n d n o t h ave

to f e el l ik e t h ere 's a n yth in g re sp ecta b le t h ere . T hat, u lt im ate ly , i s w hat i t ’s a b out.

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C an w e d is e nta n gl e l o ve f r o m s e x? S ho uld w e?

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Y e s a n d y e s. F o r a l o t o f p eo p le , l o ve a n d s e x g o a lo ng to ge th er a n d t h at w ork s w ell, j u st a s

m ono ga m y w ork s w ell f o r a l o t o f p eo p le . O th er p eo p le a re a se xu al a n d s till f a ll i n r o m an tic

lo ve , s o t h at's o ne k in d o f r e aso n t o d is e nta n gl e t h em .

In t h e o th er d ir e ctio n, y o u c an b e h avin g se x w it h s o m eo ne y o u'r e n o t i n l o ve w it h , j u st a

h o oku p o r f r ie nd s w it h b enefit s . S ex a n d l o ve c o m e a p art i n b oth d ir e ctio ns. Y o u c an h ave

o ne w it h o ut t h e o th er. I t 's j u st c o nce p tu ally c o nfu se d i f y o u p re te nd t h ey'r e t h e s a m e. B ut

fo r a l o t o f p eo p le t h ey o ve rla p , a n d t h at's g re at t o o. I t d oesn 't m ean t h ey d o f o r e ve ry o ne.

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W hat d oes a p ro p erly e xp an siv e c o nce p t o f l o ve l o ok l ik e ?

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T hat's r e ally th e q uestio n, i s n ’t i t ? I ’ v e t a lk e d a b out t w o p oss ib ilit ie s, a n d t h ese a re a b out

ro m an tic l o ve . I 'm n o t t a lk in g ab out l o ve t h at p eo p le f e el f o r t h eir f r ie nd s o r f a m ily o r t h eir

k id s o r w hate ve r. I 'm t a lk in g ab out w hat i s t h e i d eal v e rs io n o f r o m an tic l o ve .

O ne p oss ib ilit y t h at I 'v e t a lk e d a b out i s t h at w e e lim in ate i t . T hat w e s a y r o m an tic is m i s n o t

a u se fu l w ay t o d is tin gu is h a c e rt a in k in d o f l o ve . A nd t h ere h ave b een s o m e p hilo so p hers

t h at h ave a rg u ed f o r t h at, b ecau se t h ey s a y r o m an tic l o ve i s j u st b ound u p w it h

h ete ro no rm ativ it y . I t 's b ound u p w it h b ad g e nd er s te re o ty p es. I t 's b ound u p w it h a ll k in d s

of h is to ric al a sso cia tio ns w it h w om en b ein g pro p ert y a n d gi ve n a w ay b y t h eir f a th ers t o

t h eir h usb an d s. A ll t h ese s to rie s w e t h in k o f a s r o m an tic a re f u ll o f p ro b le m atic b ag ga ge .

No w, I t h in k r o m an tic l o ve i s s a lv a ge ab le . B ut t h at r e q uir e s b ein g aw are o f t h e n atu re o f

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g e nd er s te re o ty p in g asso cia te d w it h r o m an tic l o ve . T here a re s till n o rm ativ e a ss u m ptio ns

th at y o u'r e g o in g to g e t m arrie d , h ave b ab ie s, b e m ono ga m ous, a n d b e a p erm an ent,

lif e lo ng co up le , a n ucle ar f a m ily . A nd t h at's a f in e m od el, b ut i t d oesn 't w ork f o r e ve ry o ne.

S o I t h in k w e n eed t o s te p a w ay f r o m t h e w ays t h at w e u se r o m an tic l o ve t o b ox p eo p le i n .

R om an tic l o ve i s n o t o ne t h in g, a n d w e n eed a m od el t h at c ap tu re s t h is .

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Y o u m entio ned g e nd er s te re o ty p es j u st n o w , a n d I w ond er i f y o u s e e t h e i n stit u tio n o f

m ono ga m y a s e sp ecia lly o p pre ss iv e f o r w om en?

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C ert a in ly t h e h is to ric al a sso cia tio ns h ave b een e sp ecia lly o p pre ss iv e t o w om en. S o i f y o u

th in k a b out t h e o rigi ns o f m ono ga m ous m arria ge , i n t h e gi vin g aw ay o f w om en f r o m o ne

m an t o a n o th er, t h at i s c e rt a in ly o p pre ss iv e . T he f a c t t h at t h ere a re s till e ch o es o f t h is

t o d ay i s c e rt a in ly a p ro b le m . T here a re s till a l o t o f g e nd er s te re o ty p es t h at a re a liv e a n d

ac tiv e i n c o nte m pora ry m ono ga m ous, h ete ro r e la tio nsh ip s.

F o r e xa m ple , i t 's s till v e ry s ta tis tic ally u nusu al f o r t h e w if e i n a h ete ro c o up le t o e arn m ore .

T here 's a ls o s o m e p syc h o lo gi cal e vid ence a b out w om en w ho h ave r o m an tic f a n ta sie s o f

b ein g sw ep t u p b y a P rin ce C harm in g fig u re . T hat f a n ta sy, i f t h ey'r e n o t a w are o f i t , i s

c o rre la te d w it h h avin g lo w er a m bit io n f o r t h em se lv e s p ers o nally a n d p ro fe ss io nally .

S o t h ere i s d efin it e ly a b und le o f c u lt u ra l a sso cia tio ns w it h m ono ga m y t h at a re t h e s o rts o f

th in gs I a m r e sis ta n t t o a s a f e m in is t a n d a m t ry in g to p re ss b ac k o n. T hat's n o t n ece ss a rily

b ound u p w it h m ono ga m y p er s e . I t 's j u st t h e w ay i t 's b een p ra c tic e d .

B ut t h ere 's a ls o a p ro b le m w it h p atria rc h al m ono ga m y, w hic h i s t h e p ra c tic e o f a ss u m in g

th at w om en a re t o b e t h o ugh t o f a s b asic ally a k in d o f p ro p ert y o f t h eir h usb an d s o r i n

s o m e w ays a s e co nd ary p art n er i n t h e p art n ers h ip . T hat i s a ls o a p ro b le m , a n d I 'm n o t

ad vo catin g fo r t h at e it h er.

T he p ro b le m w it h p atria rc h al p oly g a m y a n d m ono ga m y i s t h e s a m e. I t 's n o t t h e m ono ga m y

or p oly g a m y — i t 's t h e p atria rc h y.

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Y o u’r e a n a c ad em ic p hilo so p her w ho h as d ecid ed t o w rit e a c o ntro ve rs ia l b ook a b out a

c h arg e d t o p ic f o r a v e ry p ub lic a u d ie nce . W hy d o t h at? 7/13/2021 A philosopher makes the case for polyamory - Vox

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I w an t t o s ta rt a c o nve rs a tio n. I d on't c are w heth er e ve ry o ne a g re es w it h w hat I s a y. I j u st

w an t p eo p le t o b e t a lk in g ab out t h is . I t h in k t h at's t h e w ay p ro gre ss g e ts d one. Y o u c an 't

m ake p ro gre ss b y d ecid in g w hat's r igh t o r w ro ng an d t h en t e llin g eve ry b od y e ls e . B ut I

t h in k w e c an m ake p ro gre ss i f w e g e t m ore p eo p le t h in kin g ab out m ono ga m y, a b out

ro m an tic l o ve , a n d w hy i t l o oks t h e w ay i t d oes a n d h o w m uch c o ntro l w e h ave o ve r t h at.

I k e ep c o m in g bac k t o t h is i d ea t h at w e h ave s o m uch c o ntro l o ve r w hat l o ve i s , w hat l o ve

lo oks l ik e , w hat s to rie s w e t e ll, w hat i s d ep ic te d i n r o m an tic c o m ed ie s, w hat s to rie s a re

t o ld i n r o m an ce n ove ls . A ll o f t h ese w ays w e d ete rm in e w hat l o ve i s a re a s o cia l c o nstru ct.

W e h ave s o m uch c o ntro l o ve r t h at. T hat m ean s w e a re r e sp onsib le f o r g e tt in g i t r ig h t. I f w e

don't , w e'r e e xc lu d in g peo p le f r o m t h e s o cia l c o nstru ct o f r o m an tic l o ve w it h o ut

ju stif ic atio n, a n d t h at m ake s i t d if fic u lt f o r t h em t o l iv e t h e w ay t h ey w an t t o o r t h e w ay

th ey n eed t o .

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Millio ns t u rn t o V ox t o u nd ers ta n d w hat’s h ap penin g in t h e n ew s. O ur m is s io n h as n eve r

b een m ore v it a l t h an i t i s i n t h is m om ent: t o e m pow er t h ro ugh u nd ers ta n d in g. F in an cia l

c o ntrib utio ns f r o m o ur r e ad ers a re a c rit ic al p art o f s u p port in g our r e so urc e -in te nsiv e

w ork a n d h elp u s k e ep o ur j o urn alis m f r e e f o r a ll. P le ase c o nsid er m ak in g a c o ntr ib utio n

to V ox t o d ay f r o m a s l it tle a s $ 3 . 7/13/2021 A philosopher makes the case for polyamory - Vox

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