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| Your Primary Conflict Style: Escalator | Backup Conflict Style: Insulator |
Step 1: Identify three conflict situations in which you have been involved at work, home, or another setting important to you.
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Step 2: Based on how you felt about yourself and what you accomplished in these situations, what would you like to be different in the future?
Your statements regarding the future represent your self-improvement goals.
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Step 3: Using the style descriptions in the Self-Development Guide, decide which of your characteristic styles are working for you in accomplishing your goals and which styles are working against you.
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Step 4: From the descriptions of those styles working for you, list thoughts and behaviors you want to maintain or increase.
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Step 5: From the descriptions of those styles working against you, list thoughts and behaviors you want to decrease or change.
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Step 6: What forces in your life (e.g., people, situations, your past experiences) would work for you in making these changes? What forces are likely to work against you?
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Step 7: What can you do to reduce the forces against you (or their impact) in making your desired changes?
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Step 8: List the specific action steps you need to take to bring about your desired changes. Assign a date to review your progress on each step.
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Step 9: Enter these review dates in your calendar or appointment book immediately. As time passes, seeing these entries will jog your memory about what you planned to do and why. This is a practical way of checking on progress and reinforcing your motivation.
Step 10: Identify with whom you will share your action plan and set dates to meet with this person about your plan as well as follow-up with him or her on your progress.
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