Week 9 Assignment

Running Head: ISSUES AND INTERVENTIONS 0

Issues and Interventions

Introduction to Marriage, Couple, and Family Counseling

COUN-6201F-2

Instructor

October 30, 2016

A critical danger to a family and a relationship can emerge when one of the individuals in the relationship takes part in an intimate closeness with a person outside the relationship. This relationship might be sexual or intimate, and the degree to which it constitutes disloyalty can shift as indicated by the couple's meaning of infidelity. As indicated by Gladding (2015), betrayal, in a general sense, is a break of trust— a relationship that was once a primary source of security is no longer safe. A person chooses to cheat for many reasons. Some of these reasons incorporate, yet are not restricted to, a requirement for sexual or enthusiastic gratification, an absence of affection, a yearning for retribution, interest, or an enthusiasm for investigating another experience.

Seeing someone, the absence of sexual fulfillment is one of the more regular reasons why people cheat when they are in a committed relationship. Both men and women who cheat are looking to enhance their sex lives. In spite of the fact that they may appreciate other common exercises with their partner, however for reasons unknown, the sex in their relationship is not satisfying their desires. The need for emotional satisfaction can be nearly as convincing an inspiration to cheat as can the necessity for sexual closeness. Those that require emotional satisfaction are inadequate with regards to that close connection with their partner. Although falling out of love may seem like an inconsequential motivation to cheat, essentially since the meaning of love is so mind boggling. Love outranked by the need for sexual and emotional satisfaction. In struggling relationships, the desire to hurt the other person who has cheated appears to build the dangers altogether from sheer absence of closeness in the relationship. Individuals feel that they want something fresh and different; this inspiration goes past curiosity and into some type of rivalry to gage their sexual capacity (Nichols and Schwartz, 1998). Disloyalty plainly typifies a multifaceted mix of yearning, trouble, and requirement for connection.

Cheating may be the reason why a relationship ends, yet paying little heed to the reasons, the effect on the lives of the couple and the families is huge. It breaks the trust, the commitment, and the trustworthiness which a marriage is based upon. At the point when two people go into a committed relationship, they make a promise to love and respect each other. This involves making a true guarantee to work through any issues that may occur inside the relationship (Baucom, et al, 2006). To disjoin that guarantee implies defaming the trust of the person who has consented to live with you and commonly manufacture an existence. When infidelity is exposed, a crisis ensues, and the extent to which the marriage or relationship can be maintained is thrown into doubt. The question that remaining parts to be addressed is—can this marriage/relationship be kept up? Lamentably, over portion of these relational unions/connections end—in any case, dependent upon how this infidelity is taken care of, the relationship has the chance to survive. A crisis like this in a relationship gives a vital crossroad that opens the door for genuine communication and self-examination which may well put the relationship in a more grounded position (Baucom, et al, 2006).

To save a marriage or relationship following infidelity, the couple may seek interventions through counseling. To address the infidelity, there are two evidence-based interventions that might be utilized to address the disloyalty. Emotional Focused Therapy (EFT) and Integrative Behavioral Couples Therapy (IBCT) are the two interventions. FT is a continuously more acknowledged approach which is gotten from a connection worldview and demonstrates specific stages and ventures for counselors to apply. It provides a clear set of stages that the counselor should progress through with a couple and is regarded as a validated and practical model that can heal couples who have experienced varying levels of distress within the marriage. EFT is a very specific approach that can be useful for helping couples that are dealing with infidelity and improving marital forgiveness and satisfaction. Furthermore, it encourages the restructuring of couple’s cooperation to support a secure emotional bonding experience (Gladding, 2015).

As for Gladding (2015), IBCT “is an approach that emphasizes the promotion of acceptance into the traditional focus of behavioral couple therapy.” There are at least two logics in IBCT. Firstly, it grasps the twin targets of acceptance and change as positive results for couples in counseling. Couples who are effective in counseling regularly encounter a few changes through which they recognize the necessities of their partner and show more prominent passionate acceptance of each other. Secondly, IBCT consolidates a blend of management methodologies under steady behavioral approximated support (Gladding, 2015). This approach can successfully expand closeness between the couples in a relationship. It is quite often the case that, following infidelity, the partner who was dependable can't get physically involved with the individual who submitted infidelity. IBCT helps couples to figure out how to trust and speak with each other again.

References

Baucom, D. H., Gordon, K. C. & Snyder, D. K. (2005). Treating Affair Couples: An integrative approach. In J. L. Lebow (Ed), Handbook of clinical family therapy (pp. 431-463). New York, NY: Wiley

Gladding, S. T. (2015). Family Therapy: History, Theory, and Practice. (6th ed.). Boston, MA: Pearson

Nichols, M. P., Schwartz, R. C. (1998). Family Therapy: Concepts and Methods. (4th ed.). Needham Heights, MA: Allyn & Bacon