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Jawharah: Hi how are you ?
Client: I am great how are you?
Jawharah: Good ,I am Jawharah what is you name ?
Client: My name is Amande .
Jawharah: Nice to meet you Amand ,how was bring you today?
Client : will bring me in today I am will I can news to talk someone
about some relationship issue (mm) I am married (m) I
have been married for 10 years now and I and my husband
I have no children to gather and I have been necessary to
adoption and my husband does not want to adopt.
Jawharah: Why you want adopt children ? Do you have any disease or
some thing like that?
Client: (Mm) will I want to adopt because I am unable to have
children I am do infertility so the one reason I want adopt
and I now another couples who have adoption before and
I think jus (mm) the next best way to have children it is to
adopt.
Jawharah:(mm) Have you ever visit hospital talk to about can you have
Children or no ?
Client: Yes I have been many doctors you now to treatment for my I
Infertility and is nothing has work nothing treatment has
work and I thing has really punch street I am my marriage
financial (mm) I am have go to some much the different
doctors and gotten three opinions and I thing the money
I spent you one the know we can use this money to just
adopt child next step foe me but my husband just very
like unwilling to take this step with me .
Jawharah: What the reason for husband the not adoption why ?
Client: Well he has really said why he does want adopt you know he
just always can talk about you know the children you know not
been really released to as by blood so what you know type
Issue came with all of that no this really matte to me just
because still Children I feel all the children deserve you know
A loving home and loving parents and I think that we good to a
child but even that he is souse tank I always wonder if you
know he does not want adopt because my husband does have
a child from previous marriage and you know to him is
different because he has a kids you know (mm) I don’t have
I never had children before and you know I thing just this issue
important to him because he like what I said he has a child
of course teenager now he is 16 years old but now that so
much different you know I want as to able to a race a child
together because my husband son you know he is never live
with us just came to visit and have ok relationship but in end
the day he still not mine biological son he is not my son I thing
just really call my own .
Jawharah: That your husband have children stay with you or with ex
Wife ?
Client: (mm) my husband son he lives with his mother so he is live
ex wife .
Jawharah: (mm) maybe this reason you need children . ok how is the
make feeling for you ?
Client: you make me feel like really really sad I am that my husband
does not want to shear experiment you know with me I am
because I just I always feel like you know my family to be
completed it is include children you know in the home so you
know if don’t have then my family is not complete you know
because we don’t have children and I do not he really
understand how important this is to my so.
Jawharah: And can you tell me why he is not want adoption ?
Client : Well I am not really sure he is reasoning (mm) most of the
time when I ask him about when I bring the staff for adopt
he said I don’t want adopt I just don’t I don’t think that be
good our family and plus he always that affect that you
know he ready have child which you know I decline you
you know his child own but I know end the day I just don’t
feel like this my child his son pervious marriage (mm) and
is have been involved I don’t have never had experience
been troth mother is that make any scenic but my husband
does not understanding just I feel he does not want
understand where I am come from .
Jawharah: You husband just think for his family if you he is afraid adopt
for children or just think for his family or not for you ?
Client: Well I don’t think that I don’t feel like my husband is taken
my feeling Consideration I mean I came from very large
large family
Jawharah(mm oh)
I do have a lot of sibling (mm)I have 6 other sibling all of 6
3 of them have you know have children and something that
to I said my husband you know he knows how important
family is to in my mind me and in my family is not husband
and wife like what I said we don’t have any kids in the home
my husband son he came to visit every one day but he does not
came visit a lot he is not all the time he normally came visit
during holiday something like that but I said before he is 16
you know he almost adult (mm) like I just don’t feel like MOM.
Jawharah: Can you tall me about relationship with husband in your
House?
Client: Well like said before my husband and I would have been
marriage for about 10 years and I relationship is very good
(m) I was say the are time I feel like he is not support of
Jawharah( immm)
things I want to do but he know he can not he never miss
any big deal about thing such as you know about adoptions
(mm)but longest is just conversation about me and him and
doing thing is fun he is good our relationship is good and he
good as well that I can see because he does not talk who feel
live so I never know really now thing bather him what I can do
or things (mm)but like even before you know we marriage we
deadest before some years before we marriage like say he
just had divorce from first wife the he has child with and you
know in the beginning we really thing about children in this
time what ever I was purpose try to finish school I was in
college you know my husband older than me few years and
like say try to finish college so I did not thinks for kids in the
time because I have some another thing I want to do like (m)
and just time spent with my husband because I know the
children our the big responsibility but when did decided to stat
you know try have kids so whatever this on we can found it I
could not have children like I say very very very hard break that
I could not have children of my own and I thing kind of cost to
me become very very withdrew and you know almost I feel
depression the I could not have children you know because I
don’t know My husband get point were he did not married
any more because I could not have kids and I does not think
he does not Want have kids but since I can give birth any
children but his wife know have any more any kids is all
that can get from him so I feel like since start talk about this
whole adoption think is kind of punch street relationship
because he does not getting and just I feeling to try to getting
you know or try to understand where I came from .
Jawharah : (imm) did you try convince your husband for adoption
Many time ?
Client: Yahh I try convince him like serves time so (m) I try to I am
let him diffident Watch adoption video every time we watch
A movie the have story live { both them laugh) you know I try
make him watch movie with me just a lot of things I try to get
him to do (mm)but he just does not no work like I said I do
we do Have some friends that have adopted before I though
that made you know get him to change mind to about want
to adopt but it is really has feeling like just I don’t know I am
get no way to try convince him to adopt like I said long taking
about adoption or taking have children whatever he good we
don’t have complex of but soon if I bring idea adoption we
are argument and I am like fresh street day I don’t mind going
days do talk about that (client is laugh) I am until to find way
really worth you know was is important me and a good
marriage or find me to be mother I hope so.
Jawharah: Did you tell him about for example we live alone we need
some Children make the house happy did try this way ?
Client: Well I can to talk him little bit you know about have effect
have children In home feel I feel like family complete and
you know make me happy whatever but his thing you know
if I take nice tripe that make happy but my mind maybe
I have few days you know we have vacation coming home
tell empty house we know still not have children I still not
be happy you know was he is like to be I am not going to see
that I have a really horrible marriage I just feel like that
something missing you know I want to able to see that I feel
like something missing and you know I want him to able
comforts with me because I feel like am sorceries you know
marriage him when he ready have child you know so the big
sorceries for me I had deal another side of him you know
whole or Another part of him I never try to keep way from
his son relationship with his son so I a just feel like I should
give him same tip of respect and for him same tip sorceries for
me Because I don’t feel like this my fault you know the I can
have kids and this one things ever never put my self you know
I just feel like this way the get for to be the I could not have
children and that is it but I am not affect so supposed be
a mother because I know I supposed be a mother and some tip
of my way and I think just feel really like adoption this way a I go.
Jawharah: Ok I know this situation so what you thing discus this
solution this problem? Did you try your family talk with
husband about this situation you need adoption did you
try your family talk with husband for you ?
Client: I mm well I don’t want my family to get involute because a
lot of people do not even you now I want adopt you know
a lot of my family members that just thing you know I don’t
have children because we try to have children because we
focus or you know what ever stuff I want to really talk about
whole live and I don’t my family to have different I look I
guess or my husband I don’t want to see him a bad person
because he does not want adoption he does want do
something I want to do
Jawharah (I mmm )
so that biggest since I thing you know just I want to see him
a bad person and you know so I but another one reason
can this affect if I want to able to talk someone about this
issue that I having someone that be for me a mediator
and my husband someone can you help me help me to help my
husband see how important use to be a mother this way to
past to adoption like I just I want to be a mother .
Jawharah : Imm ok so ok I will meet your husband next week if you
mind and talk about this situation?
Client : Ok ok I can definably try get him in her I don’t tell him I
came this Day I mm but well you know talk him a bout
you know what I did speak with someone about and you know
hopeful get him to the next session and we can talk about it
together because I love my husband but I want my family be
complete .
Jawharah: Ok how feeling now when you speak with me can you
explant ?
Client : I mmm I get a lot of chance (both laugh) I get of chance to
I am looking for next to next week when bring and to see
get to some type of compromise.
Jawharah: OK thinks Amanda.
Client: Thank you .