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Unit 6 draft

Mingtao Xia

Instructor: Mason Hopkins

Fortunately, you will become someone you dislike.

Before reading this article, could I ask everyone to imagine a picture or feature at very first of the beginning? In the coming future, what kind of personality you want to develop and cultivate; are you still insist on the dream that inspires and support you to do everything to make it comes true; and are you still feel the true happiness as the same old day? Who you become, what are you doing and how are you; those are the questions that we spend our entire life to find out and knowing yourself is the ultimate mission that everyone is trying to achieve. During the process of knowing yourself, there is one thing happens simultaneously on everyone. It will happen in different ways and varying extent but with an inescapable foreordination which is grown-up. I would like to discuss with you about an experience how a student grown-up in a different country which contains different cultures, diverse languages, unique history, and western educational system. From my personal perspective to discuss how I think about grown-up, how I actually deal with troubles that happen during grown-up and to what extent that I build up myself into who I really want to become.

People are contradictory, and people are changing over time and time. Since we are all living in a diverse society, we are facing and learning different value by distinguishing between right and wrong, and we decide what value we should build up in our body. Become someone you like or dislike, the standard of like is variable especially the students in college between eighteen and twenty-two years old. During the college year, we just finished instilling in our body some basic and healthy values such as respect, responsibility, hard work, and compassion. Those are the values to support yourself to communicate, to deal with the affair and to be positive. But when we are facing reality, sometimes we can not just be who we are and do what we want. For example, we used to support and trying to build up the personality that against flattery but eventually we become someone who compromises every decision and supports it just because want to have promotion in the company; we used to explore the freedom, do not want to be constrained, but when we grown-up, we are facing pressure from different aspect and after we realize that we have share of responsibility and roles in our family and ourselves. In the age between 18 and 22, huge changes are affecting international students, because we fly hours and days come to a new country for education without any support from parents and friends. Being alone in a different country will automatically push forward the process of grown-up, you will realize responsibility Is too important to play around, and you will realize being flattery is necessary to expend your social cycle. You will be asking, being someone you dislike is a good thing or bad thing, I have to say: it is good!

The key to growing up and getting mature is the destruction and reconstruction of our value system. During the process of our intellectual development, we will experience an inevitable and critically important part—the conceptual change, in other words, our conceptions—including our comprehension towards the world, the criteria for us to judge what is right or wrong—will undergo massive changes. Since we were born, all of us are naive thinkers. We are used to processing information in a superficial, and that is the reason why we hold unrealistic and unscientific misbeliefs when we are young and immature. Because of a lack of the cognitive ability, it is hard for us to alter these misbeliefs and transform them into a right one, for example, it is hard to explain why the earth is a sphere, but not being flat. When we grow up, we get more access to exposed with more knowledge and information, since then, those distorting and misconceived knowledge are being challenged, just like children start to realize the earth is not flat. When more knowledge is instilled, we finally develop into a more refined and correct understanding towards the world, just like children will finally learn the existence of so-called ‘gravity,’ then understand why people will not fall from a ‘sphere’ earth. We can see, what causes our conceptual change, is the clash of our original beliefs with new ideas. For international students, we are confronting with more severe clash—the clash of the Eastern ideology and the Western one. Our value system undergoes huge changes, and during this process, we may become someone we used to dislike. For instance, the original Eastern values teach us how important of the ‘conformity’ is, for it is the reflection of the collective consciousness, so when we disagree with something, we get used to keeping mute and confirm. When are educated by the Western ideology, we start to learn that unique is the best. We learn to be brave when there is no one supporting us. We become someone we used to dislike, we used to make fun of, we used to avoid being, but can we say it is a bad thing? Becoming someone we dislike, is neither a failure or a tragedy, because we are neither degenerating or degrading, we just finally grow up.

However, let us read the headline again: Fortunately, you will become someone you dislike. Some reader will ask being someone no matter in a good way or bad way you will never be yourself, and how does this become fortunately. Let me give you an example. I used to hate having the meeting which is wasting time and listening to something that barely relates to me, and I used to hate dress formally because it is uncomfortable and can not express myself. But after I get into the student organization in high school, I found out myself arrange meeting every day, because this is a most efficient way for me to organize all the information at the same time. And I found myself feeling so energetic every time I put my suit on, and all of my school faculties are affected by me, and their working attitude and working efficiency had improved remarkably. People are changing by changes in their position, situation and standard, those are the changes we have to make to become better. You can disagree with me, but you will see the value that builds up by me. But I have to say some the changes are compelled and obey our wills. I was forced to live without parents; we are forced to be independent.

Accept yourself, accept the changes that used to hate that is grown-up.