Julie is a 35 years old unmarried women and she says that its her fathers fault that she can not trust men. she

Julie is a 35 years old unmarried women and she says that its her fathers fault that she can not trust men. she

has difficulty in forming relation with men and says that her father was alcoholic and untrustworthy and he was never there when she needed him. she also says that she would not go with her problem to him because he was loud and gruff. she also tells about the guilt she felt over her fathers drinking because of her sense that in some ways she was causing him to drink. she is leery of men and convinced that they will somehow let her down if she gives them the chance. she has decided in advance that she will not be a fool again that she will never let herself need or trust men.

although she seems pretty clear about not wanting to risk trusting men, she realizes this notion is self defeating and would like to challenge her views. though she wants to change the way in which she perceives and feels about men, somehow she seems to have an investment in her beliefs about their basic untrustworthiness. she is not very willing to look at her part in keeping this assumption about men alive. rather, she would prefer to pin the blame in her father. it was he who taught her this lesson and now it is difficult for her to change.